Moving To A New House – Plus 12 Ways To Make Moving Easier If You’re Chronically Ill

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This summer was a season of great change for our family. After little more than a year in our flat, my dad had found us a lovely big house with a garden and we were packing again. Moving house can be quite stressful for the healthiest of people, so it can really be a nightmare for somebody with a severe chronic illness like ME.

We actually loved our flat, it was enough for my sister and I, it ticked most of the boxes when we were house hunting a year ago, but there wasn't room for the parents when they came over, and it was starting to get crowded.

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Moving From London

When we moved from London in 2017, we were coming from a tiny little studio flat in a shared house. It was basically a standard sized bedroom with a kitchenette in one corner, a tiny shower room in a closet under the stairs, and bunk beds against one wall to allow for more space to move around.

I had lived there for three years and it was okay for one person, but when I fell ill, my sister moved in with me to be my carer, and the place had become overcrowded and uncomfortable. It was really not suitable for two.

Our next flat was in a beautiful town far away from London. The flat seemed to be perfect for us. It was in a quieter neighbourhood, had 2 bedrooms, a lovely big bathroom with a tub and shower, a separate kitchen and a living room that was bigger than our whole London flat! It even had a ramp out the back so I could be wheeled in and out on the wheelchair. Perfect!

*Photos below were taken before we moved in

a small kitchen with washing machine, sink and oven, light brown wooden cabinets with black granite tops. a window above the sink.

A Whole Kitchen!

a small box room with a single bed which covers half the room, spanning from wall to wall.

My Own Room

a photo of the ramp leading to the back door of our old flat

The Ramp

Too Many People In Such A Small Flat

Although my bedroom was tiny, I was happy with it, everything fitted in snugly and I could reach things without much exertion, everything was just the right size and distance apart for me, but after a year of living there, that flat also became too small for our family.

Our parents come over every week for two days, so initially we had them sleeping on the floor in the living room and then later those old bunk beds from the London flat were erected in the living room permanently to make life easier. Not ideal.

A Bigger House Was Needed

So the parents found us a new place in the same town and we moved at the end of July. This new place has three bedrooms, a large living room, a huge kitchen and an enormous bathroom too. It also has a private, enclosed garden which I absolutely love!

My bedroom is so big now, there is space to store my wheelchair and manouvre my walker. I have 2 desks and little side tables as well as 2 wardrobes. And there is still space for seating for my visitors to come sit with me. And we thought the previous neighbourhood was quiet - this one is even more so. It's wonderful!

*Photos below were taken before we moved in

a large kitchen with cream tiles, light wood cabinets above and below, and mottled counter tops

Our Lovely Kitchen

large windows overlooking a small garden with a patch of grass, flower beds and a wooden fence. A paved path goes all around the lawn.

Large Kitchen Windows

a large bathroom with a shower over the tub, walls and floors tiled with cream tiles.

Huge Bathroom

Packing Up The Old House

I had just come out of a 2-month long severe flare and we had relatives staying with us at the time, so we were very careful not to overexert again. My family made sure to do all the packing and cleaning for me.

I'd be moved into a different room and they would pack all my things away. Then I'd move to a different room again, so I'd be far from the next action zone as they packed and cleaned the house.

I kept my noise cancelling headphones on and kept myself distracted as much as possible during the whole process. Once most of our things were delivered to the new house, and there was just the last bit of deep cleaning to be done, I was transported to the new place and left to rest there, in a room that was already set up, while they finished off the old flat. 

Settling In At The New House

The unpacking worked in much the same way. Whenever there was too much commotion and noise going on in a room, I'd go park in a far away room for the day, all the doors would be shut between me and the chaos and I'd put on noise cancelling headphones.

Sometimes Mum would open a box and bring it to me, she would start unpacking it and I would decide where to put things or whether to get rid of them. It was an easy way for me to be involved without having to lift anything or move from my resting spot.

Decorating Our New Home

Coming from a furnished flat to a much larger, unfurnished house meant having to purchase new furniture for almost every room over the next couple of months. So whenever they went shopping for curtains or furnishings, they would send me photos on WhatsApp so I could help choose things for the house too. 

I really am so grateful to have such great support from my family because it means that I was able to go through the whole process with minimal payback, but still feel like I was a part of the process. 

The Effects Moving Had On My Health

Initially I was doing much better after the move. I am always surprised at how a change in scenery can improve not only my emotional well being, but even my physical condition.

The improvement isn't usually extremely noticeable, but being able to walk through a larger house and sit in a different room daily and even go out into the garden once a week was a huge deal for me. Even if it meant lying down the rest of the time.

The change that made the most impact, though, was that this house is much bigger which means that I now have to walk further to the bathroom and back, multiple times a day. More walking and more sitting upright at the kitchen table watching the birds, meant more exertion which accumulated over time and it started to manifest in an increase in symptoms.

But I don't think that this current deterioration is only due to the house move. Life happened - as it does.

Life Happens 

At the time of the move we also had my cousin living with us. And, just like when our parents are staying with us, having more people in the house, as quiet and considerate as they might be, does impact my health. ME just reacts to the smallest triggers, there's no way around that.

Then, at the end of the month, I had my work capability reassessment which meant a trip by car to a town over an hour away and back again so that somebody could decide if I am still sick enough to be receiving financial aid from the government or if I am fit enough to work. (I wish I was!)

These assessments alone are very stressful, the idea that you have to prove how ill you are or lose the money you depend on is scary. Add to that a car journey and having just moved house - a flare was bound to come soon after, and it did.

I have spent the months since almost completely bedridden as my body recovers from the exertion and stress of this past summer.

Excitedly pointing out the huge window at the garden outside on my first morning in the new house. Boxes piled high next to me.

First Morning In New House

holding up a mug of coffee in front of a window overlooking a very green garden

Window Seat Views

im walking in the garden, wearing sunglasses and a purple top.

Walking In The Garden

The Joys Of A House With A Garden

Although I am still unable to go out into the garden regularly, I can see it from various windows around the house. The living room alone has 2 huge windows which look out onto different areas, each now adorned with bird feeders and very different plants. The kitchen too has an entire glass wall from which we can observe our feathered friends. That's what inspired my Breakfast With Birds series.

It is so tranquil here that I can hear the birds' sweet song from anywhere in the house, even if I'm too ill to get to the living room to see them. From my bedroom I have a view of the sky and the tops of some trees which I've very pleasantly discovered turn bright shades of yellow and red in the autumn before losing all their leaves. I can now see the little birds hopping around on their bare branches.

In the evening the sunset is visible from my bed. A big upgrade from the tall evergreen hedge outside my old room at the other flat. The hedge grew so tall that it blocked out the sky!

12 Tips For Moving With Chronic Illness

  1. Don't be shy to ask for help, delegate as much as possible.
  2. Set up mail redirection before your move so that you have time to get in touch with everybody over the next few months to change your address.
  3. Don't be tempted to pack and clean, let others help you, remember, your health, your very survival, might depend on what you do during this stressful time
  4. Make sure to get a suitcase packed with a week's worth of clothing and essentials in case something goes wrong and you can't get your things unpacked right away. Think holiday or camping in the new house.
  5. Have one kitchen / household box packed with essential items and groceries which can be unpacked in the new house first - things you can get on with while you slowly unpack the rest of your boxes. Things like a kettle, toaster, knives, forks, teaspoons, a set of plates, bowls and mugs, your favourite frying pan and pot, a few of your most frequently used cooking utensils, etc
  6. It is helpful if the two tenancies overlap slightly, or if you can get the keys to the new house early, so your helpers can get things organised on both ends to speed the whole process up and make the most of their time with you.
  7. Have your people clean the new house and air the rooms for you before moving things in. If painting needs to be done, this will be a very important step in order to get rid of paint fumes.
  8. Setting up a doorbell or intercom system is very helpful too. If you are often bedridden, this will allow you to communicate with and allow access to people at the gate or door without having to get up. This is most helpful for mail deliveries, because missing them when you cannot get to a depot is frustrating. Nobody wants to miss their happy mail!
  9. Have your new bedroom, bathroom and kitchen set up with the basic essentials first, before you arrive at the new place, so you have a place to rest and start recovery while your friends finish the move and do the big clean up of the old place.
  10. Designate somebody to provide meals and refreshments for you and your helpers throughout the process and even stock your freezer with some cooked meals for your recovery period after moving in.
  11. Have friends or family help you change your address with your doctor, your bank, and any other service providers and make calls to transfer your utility accounts to your name.*
  12. Get somebody to help you create a list of contact details for local services that might be useful. This should include your new landlord or property manager's number in case something stops working in the new house. Also local take-away, pharmacy, taxi service, bus and train timetables, etc.

*If they cannot make the calls for you due to security issues, it is still helpful for them to sit next to you while you call so they can help you make decisions and remember information and questions you need to ask as well as taking notes and writing down reminders for you.

My sister does this with me and the help desk operators are usually quite accommodating if she needs to take over from me as they know she is with me on the call from the start and know that I am still present even if unable to continue on the call.

Overall, I think this move went pretty well.

I did have to spend a few months in bed again, but like I said, life happened and sometimes we just have to roll with it - eventually we start making progress again and things start looking up.

I have finally started feeling a bit better again after 4 months in bed, and have been able to do some art at my desk again! 

I look forward to continued progress, but with the holidays coming up, I am also being realistic - it is very possible that I will have another extended flare before the winter is done, but I will enjoy every moment that I can in the meantime! 

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What About You?

  • Have you ever moved while severely ill?
  • Did you find friends or family were willing to help you out?
  • What tips could you provide to somebody who is facing a house move?
  • How long did it take you to recover from the move?
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