December 2017 Chronic Voice Blog Link-up

As this year draws to an end, I have decided to start something new here on the blog.  One of my favourite parts of blogging is taking part in link-ups or blog parties.

If you’ve never heard of them, they are basically the virtual equivalent of a meet-up in a coffee shop with other bloggers online. Usually hosted by one or more bloggers, it is a collection of links, which are really invitations, to come visit other blogs who all have something in common; it could be a hobby, the focus or niche of their blogs, or the fact that they are parents that connects these blogs.

It’s a great way to find new blogs to follow and make new connections with other bloggers as well as possibly gaining a few new readers yourself.  There are usually questions, prompts or a theme to help guide the participants.

The link-up or blog party is usually run on a regularly recurring basis, either every week or month and sometimes there will even be seasonal ones! The prompts for this month’s one aimed at bloggers with chronic illness are:

  1. Recovering
  2. Shopping
  3. Enjoying
  4. Reminiscing
  5. Preparing

This is my first time taking part in the blog link-up hosted by Sheryl at A Chronic Voice. I have been following her link-up for a few months now, the prompts are great and I always enjoyed the posts I read!

Recovering from my flare

At the start of August, I went out with my family for a few hours. It was my mum’s birthday and we went to a craft store and had lunch out. I was in my wheelchair and had all my usual gadgets and goodies to help minimise the impact of the outing, but somehow that bit of fun completely wiped me out for weeks afterwards and even then, I never really recovered back to my prior state.

It is now 30 December and I have only just been out again this week. After 5 months indoors! I again used the wheelchair, but there was much more driving involved and even a bit of shopping. (I don’t drive, I sit in the back, but just being in the moving car causes it’s own problems).

I am pleased to tell you that I have been feeling quite good since my outing and I am super optimistic about this improvement! I hope this means that I am recovering from this 5-month long flare and can once again start my creative projects which have been on hold for way too long.

I am excited to set new health goals for the year ahead and hopefully spend less time on my back and more time at my desk!

Shopping in a real shop!

This holiday season has been very different for me. I didn’t buy gifts, mainly because I can’t work in my condition, so I don’t have money of my own to spend. We did however, as a family, make use of internet shopping and the others went out and bought gifts on my behalf for each other.

It was also my family’s first Christmas together since I fell ill over 2 years ago, so our parents went all out and did loads of shopping for us. Nothing extravagant as I had already got my main Christmas gift sorted in advance when the sales were on in November, but it was quite fun to get little gifts sprinkled over the whole month. Each time they went out, they’d come back with something small – slippers, a fluffy hot water bunny, a cosy blankie – it made for a very festive season!

My sister did get me some fantastic new art supplies for Christmas. She had actually asked me which set I wanted once when she was out, she texted me photos and I chose one… funny thing is she wrapped it up and I only opened it a few days later on Christmas Eve and I had completely forgotten what it was! I got such a surprise when I opened it. Sometimes having short term memory issues is actually a blessing. Haha…

And then, a few days ago when we decided I might be ready to finally go out again, we ended the day out with shopping – out in a real shop! It was so good to just be out doing normal people things like browsing the isles of a huge store and seeing other humans. So much to see, touch and smell. It was a carnival for the senses!

Enjoying family time

When I fell ill in 2015, my family was living in Italy, my parents and my sister. By the end of that year, my sister had moved over to live with me in London to be my carer. A year later my parents moved over to be close to us too. This year was our first Christmas together in a few years and it has been wonderful having them here in our house for 2 weeks over the holidays!

Family time has been great. Mum-cooked meals, movie nights, card games, outings, long chats or even just all sitting quietly in the same room doing our own things, but together. They don’t live terribly far from us, but we usually only get to see them at the weekends – on their days off. It’s usually a rushed time of grocery shopping, cooking my special meals for the freezer, cleaning up, and then before we know it, time is up and they have to go back home.

So it has been great to have this extended, more relaxed time together.


The holidays are always full of fun and laughter, but also full of memories – of the people we have lost along the way and memories of “the good old days” when things were different (and in our memories perfect…) but life isn’t linear, things change constantly and nothing is every really perfect. This year was no different.

But I do not like to hang out in the sadness that comes from dwelling in the past, so instead of wishing the past were the present, I enjoyed a lovely walk down memory lane recently as I recalled our wonderful summertime Christmases in Africa where I grew up, and then came right back to the here and now to make the best of my time with the family I have with me now.

It’s time to look forward to the new year ahead!

Preparing for the year ahead

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As this year comes to an end, I feel like it has crept up on me quite quickly. Time really flies! So much happened this year, from my parents moving to the UK and settling in their new home and jobs, to my sister and I moving out of London into a bigger (and cheaper) flat, to huge improvements health-wise as I am no longer bedridden. With so much going on, it still feels like it was only yesterday that 2017 and all it’s adventures began.

I am super excited about 2018 though – I have some fun plans I can’t wait to put into action and some health goals I hope to reach or even exceed. I have so many ideas for this blog and plans for my art, I only hope that my body will play along and continue towards recovery.

In preparing for the year ahead, I have made resting properly a priority and it seems to be helping. Prevention is better than cure – specially since there is no cure for ME/CFS (yet!), so making sure I don’t cause unnecessary flares or relapses has to be high on the priority list.

I have created a daily schedule to include all my creative and social media goals as well as my rest breaks and days off. The aim now is to make this schedule as flexible as possible to accommodate my condition, but also try to keep it as stable as possible because that is where I thrive best – with structure and purpose to each day. Quite a balancing act!

I think that, most importantly, it is vital to be kind to ourselves – living with a chronic illness is so unpredictable – we should allow ourselves to let things go and sometimes say no to things, even when we would like to say yes. I know I hate having things on my to-do list undone, but I must remember that if things can’t get done, it’s okay. Tomorrow is a new day and I get to try again!

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SLOW DANCE, a poem by David L. Weatherford

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask, “How are you?”
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?

You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say,’Hi’

You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere,
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift….
Thrown away.

Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.

Happy New Year!

I hope your 2018 will be all you hope for and more.

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Char was born and raised in Africa, but has been settled in Europe for over 20 years. She's passionate about living well, despite chronic illness. Apart from blogging, she enjoys reading, cooking, gardening, gaming, various creative hobbies and learning new things.

She used to be a teacher, but has been housebound with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis since 2015. Since then, she's focused on spending the little energy and strength she has each day on the people and activities she loves. Finding joy in the small things and celebrating the ordinary.

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